On Thursday, March 5, we marked the end of an era. On that
day, we celebrated the life of our dear friend Edith Banning-Josef, who’d died
two days earlier.
People are often called unique, but I have never known
anyone else quite like her. She certainly marched to the beat of her own
drummer.
We first met her over forty years ago when she brought her
two boys to church. From that point on, no one who attended our contemporary
service could miss her. She sat in the back row on the aisle and ‘managed’ the
service.
She was hard to miss. A tiny bird-like woman, she nearly
always wore leggings and a sweatshirt. She particularly favored a hot pink one
with three small fuzzy teddy bears and pink hearts. I made it over twenty years
ago for a church sale. Edith bought it, and every time she wore it, she pointed
it out to me to make sure I remembered.
When the church was on a schedule with Sunday school between
services, the kids remained for the entire first service. Edith decided they
should take the collection, and each week, she chose the kids for this job.
They were delighted when she picked them. If one of our kids brought a friend,
Edith often asked the friend to participate. What a marvelous way to let a
child know they were welcome!
1982
She truly had a heart for kids. She assisted in a classroom
at the local elementary school for years, helped in Sunday school, and taught vacation
Bible school. She had a particularly close relationship with my daughter, Kim,
since she was the same age as Edith’s younger son. Edith’s nickname for Kim was
‘Snookie Cookie.’ (Where it came from, we never knew.) Before long, Kim called
her the same thing. Even last Christmas when Kim visited church, they greeted
each other that way.
After Kim moved to Texas, the first question Edith always
asked us was, “How is Kim doing?” When talking with friends at the reception
following Edith’s memorial service, I discovered she did the same with most of
the kids who had grown up in the church.
All her involvement with our church was ironic because she
never joined. I periodically invited her to become a member, but she always told
me she had joined the church as a girl and didn’t feel the need to belong to
ours, even though she attended regularly. She finally said she would join when
David did. (He’d also been attending for years without becoming a member.) I suspect
she said it to shut me up. When David finally joined the church about three
years ago, I reminded her of her promise. Of course, she still declined.
Edith had the heart of a Deacon and performed lots of
Deacon-like activities—even though we could never give her the official title.
Whenever we held an event, Edith was there to help. She cared deeply about
people, and always enjoyed our fellowship events. She was a guest in our home
for several of these and had a great time.
1999
For many years, she and my mother spent Friday afternoons at
the church folding the bulletins for Sunday morning. They became good friends.
When Mom’s senility incapacitated her, we moved her to an assisted living
facility. Edith made a point to visit her at least once a week. As Mom
deteriorated, we had to relocate her to a nursing home. Edith continued to
visit each Saturday. We always knew she’d been there because we’d sometimes find
a cookie on a paper towel with a note written on it: Vera’s. Do not eat. She
often left a bunch of wild flowers in a little bottle from which she’d soaked
off the label.
On the day Mom died, we took her onyx ring to Edith since we
wanted her to have it. We didn’t think she should hear the news from someone
else or over the phone. We told her she could wear the ring, keep it, sell it,
or give it away. She said she wanted one of her granddaughters to have it.
Fortunately, we have our old church directories since very
few photos exist of Edith. Her niece confirmed that Edith didn’t like to have
her picture taken. She said many of the family photos show Edith with her hands
over her face.
This is ironic because she always had a camera in her hand.
Over the years, she must have taken thousands of pictures of events at the
church—but we never saw any of them. When asked about them, she said they were
all on slides and she didn’t have a projector. We offered to let her use ours,
but then she couldn’t find the slides. (No surprise.)
We speculated that she might not have had film in the camera,
but after she died, her boys found several rolls of undeveloped film with her
cameras.
Between services, we have coffee hour on the patio in front
of the entrance. One of her ‘jobs’ at the church was to ring a school bell to
let everyone know it was time for the second service to begin. I guess we’ll
have to find someone else to do that job now.
2006
We will miss our friend Edith very much, but we consider
ourselves so very blessed to have had her in our lives for so many years.
