tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post4241052561786765612..comments2024-03-07T14:33:20.196-08:00Comments on Lorna Collins - Author: Life Isn't FairLorna Collins -http://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-46323102247680209262016-06-08T06:31:43.476-07:002016-06-08T06:31:43.476-07:00As a writer, I cope with grief by writing. When we...As a writer, I cope with grief by writing. When we were in Japan, we lost several friends and family members. I dealt with their losses by writing down my memories. I later learned some of these were read at memorial services. It didn't make the pain go away, but it helped. Parents shouldn't outlive their children. It has to be the most painful experience anyone can go through.Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-63090247072467792622016-06-07T23:54:38.236-07:002016-06-07T23:54:38.236-07:00After my son died in 2002 just a few weeks shy of ...After my son died in 2002 just a few weeks shy of turning 35, I was stuck in my grief for 8 years. But then I woke up one day and said to myself, "He is just too dead. How can I make him come more alive to me?" And I set out writing a diary to him over the next year. Instead of it being hard to write, I found the words flowed. And my grief flowed with the words. Writing "Out of Step: A Diary To My Dead Son" brought him into my daily world and he did become more alive to me. And has remained so. It will have to do.The Senior Hummingbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356376067454488312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-85054556532266388922016-06-06T16:04:07.393-07:002016-06-06T16:04:07.393-07:00Sometimes we'd love to see the big picture!Sometimes we'd love to see the big picture!Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-37776359816644522322016-06-06T12:47:24.397-07:002016-06-06T12:47:24.397-07:00All part of a larger plan. We don't see the e...All part of a larger plan. We don't see the entire plan at once, but it all functions together. God is our refuge. These things are not sent by God. I don't know WHY He doesn't take ALL of them away (some things I have seen miraculously fixed, but others the answer was "wait"). In the meantime, we roll with the punches and cope as best we can while having confidence that His eye is on the sparrow, and we know we are also in God's care. He's got the whole world in His hands.Shalannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05503978745207805622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-66312282882188663262016-06-06T12:41:55.905-07:002016-06-06T12:41:55.905-07:00One would hope! One would hope! Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-11777317897145371752016-06-06T12:31:29.677-07:002016-06-06T12:31:29.677-07:00When I was in my 20's I thought life got easie...When I was in my 20's I thought life got easier as we aged. <br />That sure didn't work out. Hopefully we are wiser, hopefully!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-69987237840247311332016-06-06T11:20:08.603-07:002016-06-06T11:20:08.603-07:00I agree,I agree,Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-63829955241704368052016-06-06T11:19:47.096-07:002016-06-06T11:19:47.096-07:00Larry is hooked on the Hawking series. Whether see...Larry is hooked on the Hawking series. Whether seemingly random or not, I believe our lives have a plan, even when we can't see the larger picture. Love and gratitude are the only answers,Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-14933511782302081902016-06-06T11:13:35.156-07:002016-06-06T11:13:35.156-07:00Sometimes we want God to protect us from unfair th...Sometimes we want God to protect us from unfair things, yet he does not. God turns us loose, rather like biological fathers, and the comfort is that God stands with us, He stands by us. And that's about a theological as I can get on a Monday morning.... Judy Kohnenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606250755082084118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-73426626720120098042016-06-06T10:59:51.062-07:002016-06-06T10:59:51.062-07:00I watched a NOVA presentation by Hawkings last wee...I watched a NOVA presentation by Hawkings last week. Our sun is one of 33 neighbor suns on a minor arm of the milky way, which is itself a minor galaxy. Our existence is random (and miraculous) and events are random too. It seems unfair because we take events personally. My uncle was a homeless drunk, he was sometimes mean. The source of his addiction (undiagnosed learning disability) was random, and unfair. His living longer than more caring and gifted people (like your father) is not a causation, or correlation, or a personal affront. It is random. Yes, we want answers where there are none. I feel your hurt in this blog post, without a father as a cornerstone, there is a vivid experience of abandonment and less security. I believe that practicing love is the right action when we struggle in the face of hurtful, random events. Acceptance towards yourself (and mean drunks) is a loving act of discernment, resolution, letting go. Exercising Love in the face of struggle is the sole answer that gives clarity and wisdom. (it is not easy) I also heartily agree with Meredith that when you feel emptied of love, faith gets you through the day. Hope, faith, but Love is the greatest of these. Thanks for making me think about a difficult subject.Judy Kohnenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606250755082084118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-56884436855165701502016-06-06T10:43:04.212-07:002016-06-06T10:43:04.212-07:00So true!
So true!<br />Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-31560322903042945802016-06-06T10:30:01.313-07:002016-06-06T10:30:01.313-07:00"But God..." two of the most beautiful ..."But God..." two of the most beautiful words known to humanity. How would we ever endure these things without Him?SNAPPIN MINISTRIEShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12507037514979438411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-91682847021722302192016-06-06T10:29:46.987-07:002016-06-06T10:29:46.987-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.SNAPPIN MINISTRIEShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12507037514979438411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-78316873040923918902016-06-06T10:19:46.190-07:002016-06-06T10:19:46.190-07:00Thanks, John. Thanks, John. Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-43432426019462983032016-06-06T10:16:31.522-07:002016-06-06T10:16:31.522-07:00Poignant, but, oh, so true. Sometimes you wonder h...Poignant, but, oh, so true. Sometimes you wonder how people do cope with the tragedies that befall them. And I think you're right--faith and the support of family and friends.jrlindermuthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09204855909246670628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-62992422394780369732016-06-06T09:47:36.556-07:002016-06-06T09:47:36.556-07:00I know what you mean. Faith and the support of fri...I know what you mean. Faith and the support of friends have seen me through many hard times.Lorna Collins -https://www.blogger.com/profile/01800799069326690421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886336029981598055.post-84727891823924488352016-06-06T09:44:57.847-07:002016-06-06T09:44:57.847-07:00Definitely faith. I believe I will see my family m...Definitely faith. I believe I will see my family members in heaven when I get there. If I didn't believe this, it would've been much harder to accept the death of my son from cancer at the age of 42.Marilyn Meredith a.k.a. F. M. Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04179984154939161530noreply@blogger.com